Could I please ask you guys a woman who are couple of tomboy & dee
Hi~ Nice to meet you here.
I am a japanese guy. and living in thailand.
So Could i ask you guys something?
My english is not good. Please understanding me.
My wife is Thai woman. My wife has a Tomboy friend and she has been in contact for 3 years and has been separated for 5 years ago.
I do not care about the past, but my wife has a Tomboy friend. But already married with me and Tomboy friend often get in touch with my wife. My wife said that is now a just friend and i do not love anymore. But My wife 's tomboy friend orders my wife to pay by credit card, to buy somethings, to send them, or to get a courier.
I asked my wife not to contact tomboy friend. But My wife said She is just friend again.
So I just want to ask one thing. Is this normal in Thai culture? Should I open my mind more? I would like to hear your comments.
Thank you so much and if my topic is uncomfortable i apologise
: Kon epun - [ 09-06-2019 01.04.53 IP:126.96.36.199
Hi I'm Thai lesbian but i has 2 nationality American-Thai. I marriage with Thai-American lesbian also and we're live in America together. I had bad experience like your case same boat we're. I will told you it's not normal Thai culture and hurry to order close relationship in touch between your wife and her ex soon. Coz look like big trouble about credit card spent out of way. You know what i mean. lot of trouble will coming more in future. If just kept in touch like friend exactly her ex and your wife don't wanna made you feel bad or uncomfortable in related. luck in game guy.
จากคุณ : A - [ 09-06-2019 03.57.48 IP:188.8.131.52 ]
No!!! you spoke total not culture thailand so not everyone.
จากคุณ : Snake fish - [ 09-06-2019 03.58.07 IP:184.108.40.206 ]
- Not normal for any culture in case ex still has related and do something interrupt for you're couple argue or unhappy.
- you should open mind if them show you can trust it's relationship real friend. But by my opinion im not agree not open mind in case ex-wife or ez-husband. Coz i don't want any trouble for my couple. Ex it's done suppost to done at past right?
จากคุณ : A - [ 09-06-2019 04.06.54 IP:220.127.116.11 ]
I think you can see the answers by her action. You have given her your world and she is still in the same world, the world you both make together. She is the only one to you?
If she loves you with kindness, supporting, sacrifice why let that tomboy ruins your mind? Bring her back to your arms.
จากคุณ : ana - [ 09-06-2019 09.18.02 IP:18.104.22.168 ]
This is not Thai culture and it is unusual that your wife always buy things for her ex. Let’s say, you and I are friends, i’ll buy you things for special occasion only like your birthday, your wedding day.
In your case, you may try not to ask her not to do that but ask her “Why” she do that. The answers may be reasonalble (or not) but I believe this can help you decide what to do next.
Well, I guess it’s ok to be friend with your ex in any culture. Me and several of my ex are still good friend.
But to ask them to buy something for you, that’s definitely not common.
I don’t think it’s a question of being open mind, any adult in serious relationship should know what they should and should not do with their ex. If she doesn’t, then you draw the line, if she crosses the line (repeatedly) I think you need to have a serious talk with her.
Hope you two working this out. Best of luck to you n
จากคุณ : M - [ 09-06-2019 09.55.05 IP:22.214.171.124 ]
Thank you for your reply. The ex still orders too much for my wife and the ex approaches my wife's family. Who family member sick, It is a real problem for my wife parents and I need a lot of money. I understand that a friend is worried about my wife's family. But what friends can do is only words of encouragement. I can care and solve the hospital bills. It is big money that my wife 's family can not solve. I had a hard time spending a lot of time because my wife's parents were sick. The ex is invading the happiness of my family. I think that ex thinks that my wife is an insurance that can be reunited at any time.btw my wife lied to me that they had not made love with each other, after few months, my wife told me that i loved her long time but now just friend only. Many times I asked my wife not to contact the ex.
I would like to hear your advice.
จากคุณ : Kon epun - [ 09-06-2019 11.22.09 IP:126.96.36.199 ]
I'm sorry that you have such a bad experience with thai girl. I know you love her as she is your wife but clearly she doesn't love you enough. Don't be ashame if your love life can't last forever. It's not your fault at all and no one can blame you for that.
If she can't make it right, she doesn't deserve you. You are supposed to be happy.
จากคุณ : kon thai - [ 09-06-2019 12.31.32 IP:188.8.131.52 ]
Ahh since I have read your comment no.7, I totally agreed with K.kon thai.
จากคุณ : ana - [ 09-06-2019 14.02.55 IP:184.108.40.206 ]
I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you will find solutions to your family problems soon.
Let's imagine that the ex is a guy. You may see clerer that this is a big problem. She lied to you. She takes you for granted. How support a family like her does this you? I don't know the story behind, but I would say she does not respect you.
I heard your answers and advice well. I wanted to know if my mind was small and did not understand. Because even if I was a friend, ex ordered my wife too much. And if they really loved and broke up, I think it is right for each other to be happy. It is like having a small bait and loving someone to stay in touch with friends.
I finally talked to my wife today. I will forget the last thing and you should not contact the ex anymore. My wife thought for a long time and answered me. My wife told me that she would no longer contact the ex. I had a hard marriage with my wife. My wife became a prostitute after breaking up with ex. And I met another man. Even after seeing me, I got married. I fought a lot after marriage. Because almost all the friends around me were either prostitutes or Tomboys. Frankly, I did not want my wife to see them. But it was not my own way. I want to ask the ex. If you were a true friend and now a friend, why did you see that the person you loved became a prostitute? It is already going their own way. But why do you contact me? Why have you brainwashed my wife and still use it?
I'm a fool. There are eight members of my wife's family. I provided everything. I'm a fool. I do not like my wife 's family. Families are lazy and do not work. Why did you buy a car when you were lazy and not working? Why did not you sell your car when you did not have your mother's medical expenses? I'm a fool. I gave everything for my love. I'm a fool. But I gave my wife the last chance. If I cheat on me once more I will leave Thailand. I am sorry that I am a son so poor to my mother and family. Please forgive me that my writing is inconvenient. And thanks to everyone who answered. And sometimes I will share my life here.
Give her 2 choices :
you or her ex.
If she cannot decide so you are not important enough for her.
Or if you would like to know that does she love you or your money? ... so pretend to be a man without money for a while.
จากคุณ : You know best - [ 09-06-2019 22.35.37 IP:220.127.116.11 ]
I am so angry. If my wife lied once more, I would like to kill these family and prostitutes who want to borrow money, and ex.
Why do families have a lot of responsibility for my wife and do you own cars in the country without jobs? What is the average Thai woman's salary of 15,000 Baht per month, and how does she alone provide that amount of money to her family? Why is your daughter pretending she does not know your sister is selling her body? Did money make you like this? It is a helpless and cowardly life.
I know that you are extremely angry right now, but please be calm.
First of all, you need to understand that we are not a rich nation and also most of us are not well educated. That's why money is a big thing here. So I understand your wife even though I hate this kind of people. I don't want to share my country with them but I have no choice. And I feel pity for them.
Another thing is about your mistake. Please be patient and read this carefully. Everyone can make mistakes. There's nothing wrong with it. You just need to realize the problems and fix them. Your problem is that you are too kind for bad people. You are not a fool. It's just that you are too kind and they are bad people. So don't blame yourself and don't hurt anyone. Just accept that they don't deserve your help and you can have a better life without them.
Sometimes destiny matches good people with bad people. I think the destiny is telling us to learn lessons and to be a better person. Your lesson here is to know what kind of people you should be with and what kind of people you should stay away from.
One last thing, we are not all bad. There are many good people in thailand. Please don't think that we are all the same. Trust me, we don't like the way your wife treat you.
I hope the best for you. If you need someone to talk to, you are welcome to tell your story here. Once again, as I told you, you deserve to be happy, don't let those bad people ruin your life.
จากคุณ : kon thai - [ 10-06-2019 00.14.00 IP:18.104.22.168 ]
I totally agree with Khun Kon Thai.
Please accept our supports and we will pray for you.
Come on, guys! Your comments here already criticized a woman who you don't even know. What we have here are just the words from the post owner. He only is curious about his wife behavior and her ex.
Since no truth here appeals. How could you give such a critical opinion which could throw someone life down?
I understand that you all want to cheer him up, but don't make him a murderer or evil.
To you, the Japanese. You should stand still, and tell your wife how you feel. Let's see how she responses or behaves. After you gather all the pieces of information, then decide that you want to leave her or not.
Do not hurt anyone.
Do not invite evil to your soul.
Head high then walk away.